Comments on: Am I, or Am I Not, Your Friend? http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/ Internet Entrepreneur, Public Speaker, Blogger Sun, 12 Oct 2008 14:30:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: David Petherick http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9701 David Petherick Fri, 09 Nov 2007 16:31:53 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9701 I had a dream that I met Boris two nights ago. Really. Does this mean I want to be his friend? Boris and I have never met, but I keep in touch with Boris (and he with me) through this blog, twitter, email occasionally. Boris and I have often been in touch and exchanged ideas for almost two years - but we've never met. Are we friends? Maybe we need new words like 'Vriend' or 'Eriend'? @Tom - Interesting what Blog Friends (from i-together) is doing at Facebook in that area - they have a facebook application that allows me to have my blogs (or those I am interested in), PLUS posts from my friends' blogs, PLUS posts from my frieends' friends' blogs on the topics I'm interested in on my profile page. - and very easily navigable without leaving the profile. See it at http://apps.facebook.com/blogfriends/ Regards, David I had a dream that I met Boris two nights ago. Really. Does this mean I want to be his friend?

Boris and I have never met, but I keep in touch with Boris (and he with me) through this blog, twitter, email occasionally. Boris and I have often been in touch and exchanged ideas for almost two years - but we’ve never met. Are we friends? Maybe we need new words like ‘Vriend’ or ‘Eriend’?

@Tom - Interesting what Blog Friends (from i-together) is doing at Facebook in that area - they have a facebook application that allows me to have my blogs (or those I am interested in), PLUS posts from my friends’ blogs, PLUS posts from my frieends’ friends’ blogs on the topics I’m interested in on my profile page. - and very easily navigable without leaving the profile.

See it at http://apps.facebook.com/blogfriends/

Regards, David

]]> By: Evert Jan Koning http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9699 Evert Jan Koning Fri, 09 Nov 2007 01:35:03 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9699 In a sense I agree. But then again, is'nt it the charm of online behaviour that there's room for imagination? I guess for the majority that's exactely why virtual personality appeals to them. But yes, I do understand your point of meaningless social networking. But I guess verticals (powered by advertising money) on themes will change this. In a sense I agree. But then again, is’nt it the charm of online behaviour that there’s room for imagination? I guess for the majority that’s exactely why virtual personality appeals to them.
But yes, I do understand your point of meaningless social networking.
But I guess verticals (powered by advertising money) on themes will change this.

]]> By: Tom Scholte http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9698 Tom Scholte Thu, 08 Nov 2007 09:58:54 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9698 Boris, what we need is a way to manage the visitors and contributors to our blogs. And also a way to create connections between the readers of our blogs on shared interests in way of thinking and working, topics and persons. Ten or twenty people who are readers of your articles and are posting comments are of more value than 500+ connections with people you hardly know. The people related to your blog are willing to share their knowledge and network and time with you. Boris, what we need is a way to manage the visitors and contributors to our blogs. And also a way to create connections between the readers of our blogs on shared interests in way of thinking and working, topics and persons. Ten or twenty people who are readers of your articles and are posting comments are of more value than 500+ connections with people you hardly know. The people related to your blog are willing to share their knowledge and network and time with you.

]]> By: Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9697 Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:25:00 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9697 @Tom: so what we need is a portable Social Network that lives in your blog? @Tom: so what we need is a portable Social Network that lives in your blog?

]]> By: Tom Scholte http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9696 Tom Scholte Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:23:38 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9696 Boris, as you have reached the 500+ connections on Linkedin and probably similar number on other networking sites, it is good to evaluate the value of these relationships. What did these connections bring you? Are these people really interested in Boris or just in another connection in their list? From the personal branding perspective, I agree with Rick Mahn (http://rickmahn.com/2007/09/20/why-your-blog-is-your-social-network/) where he puts that your blog is your social network. Your blog is the place where people who share your interests and views will join you and meet. Your blog is the place where people can contribute to your activities and even become friends. I think that the blogs of people will play a growing role with more value in the social networks of professionals in the near future. Boris, as you have reached the 500+ connections on Linkedin and probably similar number on other networking sites, it is good to evaluate the value of these relationships. What did these connections bring you? Are these people really interested in Boris or just in another connection in their list? From the personal branding perspective, I agree with Rick Mahn (http://rickmahn.com/2007/09/20/why-your-blog-is-your-social-network/) where he puts that your blog is your social network. Your blog is the place where people who share your interests and views will join you and meet. Your blog is the place where people can contribute to your activities and even become friends. I think that the blogs of people will play a growing role with more value in the social networks of professionals in the near future.

]]> By: Sander van der Vliet http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9695 Sander van der Vliet Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:21:34 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9695 For most people it is not the value of the connection that counts but the number of it. Having 500+ connections makes you a very important and/or popular person, and once you're there you start worrying about the quality of your connections, you're in that stage right now. For most platforms lots of connections also gives you influence; quantity does matter, so stop whining and keep accepting your invites ;-) For most people it is not the value of the connection that counts but the number of it. Having 500+ connections makes you a very important and/or popular person, and once you’re there you start worrying about the quality of your connections, you’re in that stage right now. For most platforms lots of connections also gives you influence; quantity does matter, so stop whining and keep accepting your invites ;-)

]]> By: Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9694 Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:16:59 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9694 @arjen: I had to look up "congruence". Beautiful word! @arjen: I had to look up “congruence”. Beautiful word!

]]> By: Arjen Schat http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9693 Arjen Schat Wed, 07 Nov 2007 22:09:06 +0000 http://bomega.com/2007/11/07/am-i-or-am-i-not-your-friend/#comment-9693 Social networks are so 1.0. Adding your relation type won't solve the problem, even if you have a full profile of the type of relation you have with a person you won't find any more value in the network. Linkedin is nothing more than an over complicated address book. It doesn't help you in any way do the things you do in a more efficient or effective way. Relations only have value because you can act differently in congruence with these relations. Why would you want to put in the system if you have met a person or not. We are emotional beings and we act accordingly. Why not address the issues and provide a way to describe how you feel about this person. This is likely to influence you more than the pure facts. Social networks are so 1.0. Adding your relation type won’t solve the problem, even if you have a full profile of the type of relation you have with a person you won’t find any more value in the network. Linkedin is nothing more than an over complicated address book. It doesn’t help you in any way do the things you do in a more efficient or effective way.

Relations only have value because you can act differently in congruence with these relations.

Why would you want to put in the system if you have met a person or not. We are emotional beings and we act accordingly. Why not address the issues and provide a way to describe how you feel about this person. This is likely to influence you more than the pure facts.

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