Comments on: Social Networking Etiquette

By: jcvangent

jcvangent — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 21:43:11 +0000

I think I will go with OpenDictator on this one and also with Matthijs Roumen, twitter is a thing for likeminded people and to find out what their busy with at the moment and is inspiring also in a certain sense. (that’s why I connect with you at twitter, I read your blog and find it interesting to know what your up to next ;) ).
Linkedin is a pure professional social network, with people recomanding you about past work etc. How can somebody do that if you don’t even know the person in real life?
Hyves on the other hand is also just plain fun and not to be taking seriously in any way. So I think you can have different standards for different sorts of networks, and applying them just as you see fit.

By: Matthijs Roumen

Matthijs Roumen — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 21:18:17 +0000

Why provide levels to one platform? I think it’s okay to handle several platforms.
LinkedIn for businesscontacts, Hyves for friends.

There’s a huge differents between the two contacts on each platform. Merging both platforms will make a huge mess.

For LinkedIn, you know a person or you don’t. You eather want to be linked to another, or you don’t. If you’ve marked a person as a connexion, other people will know that you’ve had contact with the person you’re connected with. The whole idea behind LinkedIn (at least, that’s my theory) is that you can ask your contacts whether a person (that is linked to your contact) is trustable or not.

By: Joran

Joran — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 21:10:03 +0000

Yes, I did. How did you get hold of it? It looks like an old photograph scanned in? Any context?

Yes, on the social discussion, more context would be a good idea. Perhaps also 3 levels of friendship e.g. distant friend, close friend, very close friend.

On a similar note, some of my friends have said it would be nice to be able to share photo’s on social networks only to certain selected friends and not to one’s whole social network.

So it seems the social network still has a way to go. And that perhaps… is a good thing.

By: Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten

Boris Veldhuijzen van Zanten — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 18:39:04 +0000

Thanks Joran, I like that picture too. Did you click on the photo? It is a lot bigger originally.

It would be nice to add more information/status to the relationship than only ‘We are friends’. Something like ‘We communicate (Offline or Online) once a day/week/month/year/less” would be very helpful.

By: Joran

Joran — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 13:40:46 +0000

I just love the Happy People photograph.

Perhaps on a certain level we feel we need social rules to defend ourselves when we reject another person’s request for “friendship”?

It is not that we do not wish to be friends, or add such a person to our address book, it is that we cannot.

And perhaps to say “we want to but cannot” (even if only to ourselves) is easier than to say “we can but do not want to”?

By: Joop

Joop — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 09:14:31 +0000

I share Mathijs Rouwmen’s advice. I would like to respond with my experiance that I had while playing around with Facebook over the weekend. Because some voices are saying that Facebook is a competitor for both Hyves and Linkedin.

“Facebook will soon overtake Linked In, at least in my world. Since I joined, a month ago, I’ve had 38 invitations to connect on Facebook, compared with 17 approaches from Linked In users.” http://valleywag.com/tech/the-.....258429.php

So what to do with you friends? IRL there is a distinction between “FRIENDS” and “PEOPLE” that you know. I want to add everyone that invites me, because I want to have friends. But what they need to do is telling me how we met! (context)
online people can give the URL, offline can give location and time.
Like this: http://www.facebook.com/friend.....k=67109316

Boris, maybe it is time to reorder your address book. Put all sources on one big pile and rank them!

By: OpenDictator

OpenDictator — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 09:12:02 +0000

Fully agree with Matthijs. I depends on the networking tool.
LI, in my book, should be a clean representation of my professional network.

Twitter on the other hand is much more about finding likeminded people, also on a social/shared interests level. In this case, the barrier to connect is much lower. This is, for me, is also the reason why Twitter is cool. You meet interesting people as if you are standing in a bar.

By: mark

mark — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 00:16:27 +0000

Oh, how about an emoticon for the relation with each of your contacts? (this is an openidea btw, or does it already exist?) ^_^

Something else, on flickr for instance I still think of it as a feature that I don’t have to do anything with the fact someone added me as a contact or even as a friend. They got what they want and I still have the freedom to decide for myself.

Oh, and again something else, about the situation I just described on facebook, even though I added this person as a friend, I could also give a value to the relationship and choose ‘I don’t even know this person’ :D