Imagine that someone would tell you that with a minimum of effort you could learn another language. A language you could understand when spoken and one that you have been using yourself, since the day you were born, without knowing it. A language that everyone knows and speaks, but isn’t aware of when used.

Wouldn’t you be interested?

This is what it feels like when you learn more about body language. A few weeks ago I bought a book titled “The Definitive Book of Body Language“. I blogged about it before and it is one of those books that could have a tremendous effect on your life if you read it.

Body language really is language that you know instinctively. Sometimes you just don’t know why you know certain things and while I was reading this book I often had that ‘Of course, I knew that!’ feeling.

And now every meeting I have is so much more fun. It is like watching a movie with the directors commentary in the background. People might be saying one thing with their mouths while saying a completely different thing with their hands, legs and faces. Here are a few things that will be explained:

• How palms and handshakes are used to gain control
• The most common gestures of liars
• How the legs reveal what the mind wants to do
• The most common male and female courtship gestures and signals
• The secret signals of cigarettes, glasses, and makeup
• The magic of smiles–including smiling advice for women
• How to use nonverbal cues and signals to communicate more effectively and get the reactions you want

Tessa, Arjen and Patrick are reading it now because I talked so much about it. I suggest you pick up a copy for yourself too…

And here is photo that Daniel J Ashes took a few months ago of Wilfred Löwensteyn and me. Can you guess what we are trying to say with our body language?