You could say that I am a friendly guy. I am polite, patient and interested and if you need a minute of my time you can get it. In most conversations I’m the good cop. You could say that this is a good thing. And sometimes it can be. It is nice to be liked.
But sometimes I would like be honest and tell people what I REALLY think.
One of the jurors of Idols once explained why they were so incredible mean to the people in the show. He explained that all he tried to do is prevent a life of frustration.
“It is better to let them know, very clearly, that this isn’t going to work because if you give them even a glimmer of hope they will hang on to that forever.”
I think we all agree that sometimes it is better to be honest and direct even it may hurt some feelings. So sometimes I wish I could be a lot meaner and actually tell people that their ideas suck, they are born losers and should just find a job. But that is incredibly hard for me. I will more likely smile them to death.
So maybe this is something I should work on?
Maybe you could give me some honest feedback:
Do you know any tricks to be meaner? Can it be learned?
Should I just accept that I’m the good cop and let other people play the bad cop?
Or do my ideas suck, am I a born loser and should I just find a job?
Now is you chance to tell me!
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6 Responses to “Smile You To Death”
I really don’t see how honesty would be mean. Maybe the delivery of the message could be mean, but not the honest message itself. Even good cops can be honest ;-)
Ah yes, I even have a problem with being honest.
I guess you’ll first have to accept that not everybody has to like you. That’s hard to do for a lot of people (myself included) and i think the only remedy is to keep reminding yourself of that simple fact.
Hai Boris,
Of course this can be learned. I think you’re not doing that bad yourself. In my opinion you’re a good criticaster. The last years I heared you judge businessplans and I thought you were giving quite honest judgments. But perhaps it is hard to be really honest to the people you’re on a friendly base with. For me in my contacts with students I learned to be as honest as can be, cause otherwise I’m not doing them a favour, but I also experience the results of my soft feedback in the delivery of bad products.
Hi Boris,
Below you can find the solution>:
http://www.ns.umich.edu/htdocs.....hp?id=3209
…via this blog (with a great analysis)
http://dilbertblog.typepad.com.....ins_e.html
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